Why we’re not ALL dancing in the streets today

As with so many things in life, unfortunately, the build-up led to a somewhat disappointing end result. (Like when I went to the Varsity in Atlanta for the chili dog and it was, well, okay. I should have gotten the fried pie. I should have listened to Nan.)

Don’t get me wrong — I am thrilled that Barack Obama is the President Elect. Getting a Democrat into the White House has been my hope for the past 8 years. And for America to finally show that it — collectively — is mature enough to look at a person and judge them on their merits and not by their skin — that is huge.

But here’s the thing. I mean, I hate to rain on anyone’s parade. But at the same time that America was being all mature an stuff by electing an African American as President, it was also showing its — collective — immaturity and insecurity by stripping away civil rights from its fellow citizens.

In California, 18,000 Americans who happen to love someone of the same sex have gotten married since June. That is, they have entered into a contract with each other, the same way that heterosexual couples do. Because that’s what marriage is in the eyes of the law. What your religious beliefs are, well, that’s your right to believe. But you and I may have different beliefs on this.

And that’s why we have a little thing called Separation of Church and State.

For example, I know very little about the Catholic Church, but I do know that divorce is out of the question. Yet, as we well know, divorce is quite common and completely acceptable in the civil arena. Why? Because the concept of divorce being terrible is a religious one.

This post is not very well written, and I apologize. But it’s been rattling around in my head all day as I talk to friends and co-workers about the wonderful thing that is the election of Barack Obama. Those same voters who elected him also chose to take away basic civil rights of your fellow Americans in California, Arizona, and Florida, as well as deny the possibility of children in Arkansas to be adopted by loving gay parents. No special rights were being asked for. Only equal rights.

Yes, America has come far to elect Barack Obama. But clearly some in America are still more equal than others.


  1. The church should get out of the marrying business entirely, leave it to the state and bless the state sanctioned unions. But that said, it doesn’t take the hurt out of what CA did yesterday. That just totally sucks. We shall overcome someday. Why not today? That’s what I want to know.

  2. seems like i have been banging my head against the wall on this issue for 44 years now, since i came out at 12 years old. i remember when it was hard to even congregate in public, pre stonewall! so even though we are not there yet, we are continually moving forward and i am hopeful that i will see equally for all americans in my lifetime. i, for one, will never give up the fight! and many thanks to my blogger friends, especially sue and sara, who keep this issue on the front burner everyday!

  3. I was born and raised Catholic by very strict Italian parents – also living with my very strict Italian grand-parents in the same house.

    Imagine the shock when I finally came out to my Mom!?!?! Holy Crap!

    Anyway, we are moving forward. As slow and frustrating as it is. Things have gotten better.

    But still, we are far from equal.

  4. I am deeply saddened by the outcome in California. I was expecting to win this easily. I am disgusted with religious institutions that feel they have the right to enter the political arena to push their agenda. I am told that there are legal issues that may reverse the prop, and I hope that turns out to be true. I am so upset that people now married may find themselves once again, in the “other” category. When oh when will we desist from this pattern of exclusion?

  5. This is not just a social issue — I do believe this is also tied up in the poor economy, a lack of universal health care.

    When people are out of money, out of work and struggling they behave in irrational and dangerous ways. Look at Germany …

    When our economic situation improves – we will improve in regards to civil rights and equality.

    If gays can “get married” then employers have to provide health care for spouses, the tax structure changes.

    I don’t think the majority of Americans care if we get married or not (I really don’t those opposed for moral reasons is very small).
    This is people voting to guard their finances.

    Get universal health care first and get back to me on this issue.

    It does stink, it’s not fair — it is an economic issue we need to fix first.


  6. I was so saddened to read that in the paper the day after elections. You are right, Sue. It is a let down. It surprises me that people are so against this issue! PEOPLE – WAKE UP AND SMELL THE COFFEE!!!!!!! The Catholic Church has brainwashed its followers into thinking that love and partnership must be between a man and a woman. It really outrages me! My parents have been divorced since I was 3 years old. My father ran around and left my mom with five kids, yet she was the one denied at her Catholic Church. The Catholic Church insisted they use the rythm method – no birth control (I guess this is lucky for me). All I can say is, all five of us are very musically inclined. I don’t think my mom ever got over the Church refusing her. It makes me sick. So, Pope whatever, put that in your pipe and smoke it!

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